No Shame In Asking For Help

By Ellie Drabnis on July 5, 2016

There is no shame in asking for helping. Or rather, there shouldn’t be.

We are all only human. We are not self-correcting robotic entities that can simply reboot our systems and fix mistakes as if they never happened. As human beings, our actions have consequences that we may not necessarily be able to change. That being so, asking for help should not be looked down upon — especially since it might take someone a lot of courage to ask for help.

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Asking for help is not easy because of the idea that it opens one up to vulnerability. It might make one feel anxious and ignorant for not knowing how to proceed themselves. But, no one has all the answers. Taking that into consideration, being a-okay with asking for help should become a new normal.

All of us will come across judgment in our lives, but if we are legitimately asking for help from someone close to us or even someone who we are working with in a group, be it for school or work, know that there is a level of respect there. We are no better than the other person involved and are in fact, on the same playing field. Therefore, we’re equals. Shame should be the last thing on anyone’s mind.

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On the other side of the ‘help equation’ is those being asked for the help. It’s understandable that you may not want to help your little brother or sister fold some paper or turn on some device because of the inconvenience it poses, but know that those who ask for your help, be they old or young, are asking from a good place.

They are asking for your aid specifically because they are convinced that you are not only qualified enough to guide them but also because they think highly of you. Adding to them thinking highly of you, they are certain that after you have given them the help they require, they will be able to go on and do this task themselves next time.

We need to stop spreading around the idea that those asking for help do not know what they’re doing. Look at writers for example. They’re lying if they’ve claimed never to have run an idea by a friend here or there. Or even more simply, if you’re more numbers-oriented and not too good at English but have a friend who is the opposite, you can help one another with homework using your strong suits.

Helping each other out like that goes a long way and even further builds trust. From then on, those who you ask for help and those who you end up helping will be the last ones to judge you. There is no ignorance anywhere near these situations, only mutual respect.

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